Ok I admit it this probably will make a few people angry and a few people pretty upset with me. I would have been upset with me too not so very long ago if I’d read that being in a place of pain was a choice..Now don’t get me wrong here my friends I’m not suggesting you chose to be in your place of pain whether that’s with a relationship you’re not happy in, a job you dislike,you feel stuck in a place of lack with your finances, a family you don’t like belonging to, a situation that’s put you in jeopardy, an illness….I’m not suggesting that at all, what I am suggesting is this: if you are stuck in a place of non-movement, a place of remaining a victim to your circumstance, then you’ve made a choice.
Yikes! What the hell do I mean by that and who do I think I am to say such things..I don’t even know you and that’s quite true for many of you reading this. Hear me out on this one please. First let me share some of the pains I’ve gone through just so you know I’m not making this stuff up. I’m a thriver of incest, I’ve owned and lost a business or two, I’m a parent, I’m married to a firefighter, we’ve had tragic deaths occur in our family, I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease at the age of 40 and told 6 years later the doctor had made a big mistake (I’ll say), I’ve had a friend murdered by her husband….I know whereof I speak when I say making the shift from full of pain, painFULL to becoming empowered, powerFULL is a choice. For many years I chose, because I didn’t know any better, to remain a victim to my abuse, once I had the tools to make the shift from victim to victor I did so. The same has remained true for all the events, big and small, that I’ve been exposed to: it has always been a choice for me to stay stuck in the pain, the lack of personal empowerment, or to acknowledge it, process it and then shift to a place of being powerFULL….
It’s not easy but it is simple, all it takes is a shift in your choices.
Victim to victor…what’s your choice? Living la vida fearless, Jan
