You know what I think? I think everybody everywhere should always be grateful to their mama. I don’t think we need to have a special day set aside to honour our moms, we ought to be doing that every day don’t you think? I get it, some people like to be reminded and some people only see their moms on special days and some people don’t care at all, for good reason too, I might add. Still, honour your mama every day, she gave you life. She may have messed you up, she may have made things pretty miserable for you, she may have even been brutal and cruel and mean to you but you now have a choice in how you move from that place of trauma in your childhood. Some people had wonderful childhoods, moms who loved them, mamas who would do anything for them. Have you ever watched a mom on a playground with her beloved child? If that child is in any way reproached, watch out folks, mama bear will come out roaring and you’ll be the receiver of that roar if you dared mess with her kid. I love my mom, she taught me a lot, some of it I didn’t want to learn but it served me well. When I was 7 I stole some candy from the local grocery store, mints actually, and I had put one in my mouth while we were getting into the car. We were pretty close to the wire financially and I never had any money so my mom knew I didn’t have a way to pay for that candy. Yup, she called me on it, she marched me back into the store and made me apologize to the store manager, yikes! And, she made me pay for the candy with some money she had which I had to work off when we finally got home. I was humiliated, ashamed, very embarrassed and totally devastated that my mom was so hurt. I never did that again. My mom has also taught me to hold in my emotions, to not speak when I should have, to be a “good girl” when bad things were happening.She didn’t do this intentionally, we teach what we know. I learned from that too though and vowed I would never ever ever pass that lesson on to my children. I did not, I will not. I have two children now: a woman in her own right and a young man in his own right, both amazing and wonderful and kind people. They too teach me and I love that I, as their mama, am willing to learn, am willing to be guided by their wisdom as they are by mine!
Mother’s Day, the official day in North America, is fast approaching: I say make every day Mother’s Day and go hug your mama if you can, somebody else’s mama if you can’t. Now go be fearless.
